tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311660410582185495.post4847179101302733099..comments2012-10-25T01:29:47.565-07:00Comments on Me, a Table for Two?: To Wear or Not to Wear? That is the Question.StephMChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02964860235550862454noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311660410582185495.post-11995531184112628372012-05-13T22:49:48.820-07:002012-05-13T22:49:48.820-07:00Steph...Steph...Steph! You haven't lost me. Lo...Steph...Steph...Steph! You haven't lost me. Lol!!! I love hearing from you. I'm always looking forward to reading your blog. Guess I was offline for a short while but I will make sure not to go offline again and if I do, I shouldn't go for long, just for you Sister. Take care and God really bless you as you share your heart with us.Tatuuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04327383749873303366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311660410582185495.post-59959743272715883262012-05-13T07:04:07.791-07:002012-05-13T07:04:07.791-07:00Tat, thank you so much for you reply. And I'm...Tat, thank you so much for you reply. And I'm glad you're back to being on here and interacting with me. I thought I had lost you forever, lol. I found your response very interesting. It is good to hear of how sisters in other countries face issues that sisters in America face. It is good to hear of some of the hardship you have faced; it should remind us of the lack of hardships we, 0ver here, have had to face. I guess you could have written this post for me. And it sounds like your pastor is right on target. Tat, I really am very excited that you're back. I do love hearing your heart for the gospel. Take care, sister!StephMChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02964860235550862454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311660410582185495.post-41381741898296485122012-05-10T23:34:05.509-07:002012-05-10T23:34:05.509-07:00Btw, there was a statement my Pastor once made in ...Btw, there was a statement my Pastor once made in Church about dress code. He said:<br /><br />"There is this man who has come to Church, ready to find God, totally surrendered, hands lifted up worshiping then you walk in to church with a mini skirt or showing off a cleavage, then the guy is distracted for the rest of the service, he can only think about what he saw".<br /><br />That made me almost cry...I don't wanna be the kind of a girl who distracts someone from his walk with God. I really don't.<br /><br />And then there is a statement my Pastor's wife said and I quote, "I don't wanna be sexy in the streets because I'm sexy at home". She was talking about how the world pressurizes us to dress sexy, hot and all that. <br /><br />My conclusion:I don't have the need to look sexy for any man, and if I was married, I'd strive to look sexy for my husband at home, not in the streets showing off what he alone is meant to see to everyone. I don't want to attract the wrong kind of attention by dressing funny. I am fearfully and wonderfully made. I am beautiful and that beauty can be seen when I am fully dressed.Tatuuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04327383749873303366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2311660410582185495.post-80522904743094240672012-05-10T23:13:09.130-07:002012-05-10T23:13:09.130-07:00Hey Steph...it's been a while!
The issue of m...Hey Steph...it's been a while!<br /><br />The issue of modesty...mmh! Yeah, it can be a hot topic. Modesty means different things to different people and in different stages of growing up both physically and spiritually...I believe.<br /><br />I am an African raised by African parents(of course) and my dad had a strange view of what modesty is and that is what as a girl I had to live by...he made the rules. Wearing trousers in our house as a girl was a crime punishable by my dad's law and the only punishment there was was beating. I didn't quite understand why trousers were wrong but yeah, I didn't put on trousers until I was in high school and I could only do it during the day and make sure I am in a skirt by the time he comes back in the evening. Lol!!!! Now, that's modesty my dad's way.<br /><br />Come college and I went to a Christian business school. Before admission, I was a given a booklet tagged 'dress code'. In it was a list of what to wear and not to wear Mondays to Friday and what was allowable Saturdays. After reading it, I was given a form I had ti sign declaring that I had read and understood the rules stated therein and that I was going to adhere to everything stated. The school hires 'fashion cops' whose work is to stand at the school's main entrances and they make sure that nobody enters school 'inappropriately' dressed. Trust me, the few days I 'forgot' about the dress code and I went to school with a rather tight trouser or short skirt, the fashion cops took my ID and I had to go back home and change. Now, that's modesty as per the college.<br /><br />And then comes the life after school and away from home and the real challenge sets in. No rules to live by, I can walk in town half naked, who cares after all it MY life, right? Nah! I am a Christian first before everything else and I should live a life that represents Christ to the fullest. What to wear questions are a challenge and I am sure I have messed up in this area many times. I have showed up in our groups Bible study in a mini and the men in that group got distracted...I may have caused them to have ungodly thoughts(read:caused them to sin) and that equals sin in Gods books. ouch! I may have justified my dress code by saying it was too hot...of which it was...but then, maybe I am making too many excuses.<br /><br />Then arises the question of 'working our own salvation in fear and trembling'. Surely...the men should know this verse...but coming up with such an excuse is selfish in itself.<br /><br />So, on dress code and the personal decisions that I have made...I don't do those tooo short dresses, at least just below the knee so that if anyone sins, I will not be held accountable. Lol! You can also check this ladies views on modesty...they are a bit different but worth checking- http://laurennicolelove.blogspot.com/2012/03/conversation-with-kate-on-modesty-lust.html<br /><br />PS: My dad's view on trousers either changed or I grew outta control. He no longer asks me when I am in trousers. :)Tatuuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04327383749873303366noreply@blogger.com